Miscarriage - Part 1

 

As the topic say, I had three marriages till date and i will update you way by way.......

First, I visited my home country to meet and attend my mother for knee transplant surgery. Those days I used to have pain in right lower abdomen so I and my sister thought why not to do checkup in same hospital. 

It was only one year to my marriage. After checking me up doctor suggested ultrasound and I have to find a female good radiologist. Alhamdulillah I found and she diagnosis two things either I have ectopic pregnancy or some cyst. 

Later with radiology scan I have to run couple of time HCG beta test which help to detect the pregnancy accuracy. Alhamdulillah the false pregnancy got detected way earlier so it couldn’t damage any of my internal organ. 

Later, I have to go though some injections and medicine to discard the false pregnancy as it was life threatening. Soon I travel back with lots of physical pain. 

But I was so blessed to diagnosed earlier and safe my health from getting more worst.

I never complaint Allah SWT for not giving child, but I always thanks for not giving me more worst scenario. Moral: Complaining to Allah SWT is everyone right but ignoring what we are blessed though is wrong.

 

Rest Allah knows better.

 

You can read it more on Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ectopic_pregnancy

 

 

Obesity Of Mine

Obesity can be defined in simple words called "FAT" or "FATSO". I being called baby elephant by my sister, of course with love but that means similar to I AM FAT. 

Judging a person with the body is wrong, but being in obesity we are doing wrong with ourselves. I know that from the beginning but was enough lazy or ignoring myself. Why I reduce obesity are two major reasons.

1. From Islamic Point obesity is not good because it leads to laziness and more eating.

2. From a health point of view obesity lead to many unwanted diseases.

Still, I am trying to reduce weight as I am in the overweight category but Alhamdulillah I am out from obesity. it is a little hard for me due to PCOD, but it is working. you can calculate your BMI from: https://www.calculator.net/bmi-calculator.html 

What does Islam say about obesity?

Islam does not encourage overeating, what we see in pictures of Arab having a feast is nothing to do with Islam, it is their culture same as the emperor of other countries. Islam encourages moderate eating as mentioned in the below hadith.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is sufficient for the son of Adam to eat a few mouthfuls, to keep him going. If he must do that (fill his stomach), then let him fill one third with food, one third with drink, and one third with air.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2380); classed as Saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (2265). 

Start slowly and gradually for reducing weight, ask Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى‎ if you have kids and in-laws who do not support exercise, then try going on for Groceries, Masjid, the relative house where you have to walk for at least an hour. 

I have personally felt that when you are obese you do less activity and feel lazier to do anything. May Allah grand health to all of us. 

Stay healthy and safe.

Isra Wal Miraj (Shab-e miraj) -Misconception

As salaam alaikum wa rehamtullahi wa barakatuhu. 

Recently we witness one of the Islamic event called shab-e meraj. Let talk first what it is. As much as I am aware of, it is a night when 5 time salah prescribe on us. 

Salah is very important act in our life. It is mandatory to pray 5 time a day on given time. And on the day of judgement first   question will be based on salah. Brother and sisters don't miss salah for sake of spending time with friends, you will regret it later. 

So, one of my roommate asked me that when is Shab-e meraj? I said it's on Thursday. She asked me next question instantly that when we should offer nafl salah? I asked her nafl salah for what ? She said for Shab-e meraj. I replied her that there is no where written in Quran and Hadith that we need to offer nafl salah for this day. 

Nor Allah order something like this neither our prophet (peace be upon him )  did.  Praying nafl salah is not wrong but offering  it on a specific day with other intention is wrong. 

Muslims who came in Islam get easily mislead from this kind of lack of knowledge. Trust me sisters I am also the one who offered nafl in my first year of reversion in Islam. After some days only I came to know there is no such nafl suggested or obligated on us. 

On Shab e Miraj, people offer nafl in order that they will get forgiveness for there sins committed. Dear all don't you know why prophet peace be upon him went to meet Allah.? When the whole motto of the night was  prescribing mandatory salah on us. People it mean you should pray five time a day rather than offering nafl salah offer you daily salah on time. 

Conclusion: five time salah obligated on us on Shab e miraj day, pray as our prophet Muhammad peace be upon him did. 

Hijab As Per Sunnah - I want to look like Muslim

As salaam alaikum wa rehamtullahi wa barakatuhu

As you see in last blog i started hijab alhamdulillah. But I didn't start wearing it as per sunnah. I wear tights jeans and t shirt with hijab. After sometime, like a week only I started wearing some long coat which cover my back till knees.

I started praying as it is obligated on each Muslim. So, I used to carry a long prayer gown with to every where because someone told me women can't pray in tights pants it should be full cover and loose. 

Slowly I understood what actually hijab mean. I attended one lecture of zakir naik, one woman asked question about why you man of Islam make you woman to be cover, why you force them to wear abaya? He explained very beautifully. Frist he said we have not told our woman to cover themselves, you can ask any woman who put hijab is from her will or from parents or husband wills. Trust me sister they will answer "it's our will as we fear Allah".

He explained why hijab came on woman as well on man also. Why on woman to cover full body is for there own safety to protect there valve. He explained very nicely Six criteria for Hijab.

According to Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically six criteria for observing hijab:

1. Extent:
The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for men and women. The extent of covering obligatory on the male is to cover the body at least from the navel to the knees. For women, the extent of covering obligatory is to cover the complete body except the face and the hands upto the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars of Islam insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of ‘hijab’.

All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women.

2. The clothes worn should be loose and should not reveal the figure.

3. The clothes worn should not be transparent such that one can see through them.

4. The clothes worn should not be so glamorous as to attract the opposite sex.

5. The clothes worn should not resemble that of the opposite sex.

6. The clothes worn should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.e. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.

Good one. As soon as I got my answer that woman beauty is for husband why to show all other and make it as object I started wearing loose cloths. Now trust me no one say me by looking that I am a reverted Muslim. Hijab add Noor/ light on beauty of woman and not degrade woman. 

Now alhamdulillah  hijab is like my part of body I can't separate it and I won't till my grave. May Allah grant all woman the knowledge of hijab and beauty of it. 

Conclusion: Don't be just Muslim be more and look like Muslim.

When I put on hijab - Trust Allah

As salaam alaikum wa rehamtullahi wa barakatuhu 

When I came in Islam 29 sept 2013, I took shahada in Dubai court. My Muslim sisters and brother took me there early in morning so I can go office after that. That was awesome time but trust me I didn't cry. Back to work 

One of family member Muslim sister she came in Islam like 7 years back mashaallah. When she say about her life I feel like saying Allah don't test me like this. One of the good statement advised ever which was made by that sister friendto her when she was in confused state. When all left Muslim sister alone she was getting pressure from home to come back and mother's emotional blackmailing. She asked her friend what should I do, so that friend replied that you can Leave Allah and go to your mother but who can assure you, if Incase you put your first step in home and your  mother is no more to see you. Than you will be totally alone because Allah didn't left you but you left him for your mother and your mother left you. She cried and didn't turn back whatever it took. 

This is one of the inspiration for me. I started my hijab within 2 week of my shahada. That 2 week I was in thinking what people will say me, how they are gonna react, what he I ll be kick out from job, but more than that one thing was going on I need to cover me I need to cover me. And I started hijab which will go with me till grave in sha Allah.

My boss is Hindu and they reacted and asked me why you wanna become Muslim. They are terrorists, they are not good. Alhamdulillah I started studing and listening Dr. Zakir  naik lectures  before so replied him with proper answer. 

Conclusion: No matter how hard people are with you just trust Allah and move, trust me you will not be defeated. My hijab my love toward Allah.

First step towards Islam

As salaam alaikum wa rehamtullahi wa barakatuhu 

One day me and my Christian friend thought for fasting Ramadan. Her reason of fasting Allah knows but why I thought because it is fun .

We are 6 people in a room that time 2 roommate where Muslim and in full flat 3 families are there in that 2 families were Muslim. So I thought so excited it will be to get up early and eat and in evening get together and eat. So we took fasting alhamdulillah.

The first thing I left was wearing shorts, mini just to respect the month of Ramadan.  We were so good in fasting and with grace of Allah didn't find any difficulty in it. One day in kidding manner a muslim girl told me get converted and I said if you will say that again I ll skip fasting. (Ya Allah forgive me for those words and hurting sister).

Some of my friend who are Muslim said there is not use of your fasting Allah will not except this. I told them who are you to decide. Like that with mix feeling we did fasting but not full month. We did Ramadan salad as an non believers. 

Ramadan over. After that one day I wore short and was not able to feel comfortable at all. I don't know what was wrong with me and I drop wearing shorts or improper cloths. Alhamdulillah. 

Conclusion don't judge others or there rewards. You are just a human being , let Allah judge you.

Just pray for all Muslim struggling all over 

How was I before Islam

Assalaam alaikum wa rehamtullahi wa barakatuhu 

I am Ayesha before I was Ankita Goyal. I am or was very bubbly and jolly in nature. For me life is just enjoying. I used to say enjoy each and every moment we don't know when dead will taste us and I should not regret that I have not done this but inside I knew someone is there up watching us. 

I came from Hindu family and very religious one but the best family ever I saw. I am youngest one in my family. Oops was youngest one until I got nephew. My family's reaction was not good when I was reverting in Islam.

With the grace of Allah I completed my engineering in 2011 and  shifted in Dubai in July 2012, I used to go pubs and all basically was party animal which I don't want to describe now. I have enjoyed a lot in my life but inside was knowing this is not true. As I was science student and love science I used to think what will happen after dead ? Is I will become star or ghost ? If I will become star what I am suppose to do see all other on world and can't move from place so boring.. Or ghost than I can try all cloths in market without paying , I can watch all movie without tickets. That was actually my thoughts. As I told I am from Hindu family they believe in 7 birth so my mother say me always that if you do bad to other it will come back to you and you will became some animal like dog, frog in next birth.lol ya I know she sound funny but trust me she is best mother in world. So my next birth thought was always with me. 

I was like tomb boy and so daring one. I don't fear to talk to anyone . If you will dare me to say love you to smart sir in school I would do that also. So when I shifted to Dubai I was non believer. My room owner is Muslim, but we have mix religious people here. From beginning all like me because of my mother policy or taught not to hurt anyone. And I was the person live in my own world not bothering others, I don't care for world what they think about me just chilling and enjoying was my aim. Apart from enjoying my aim was modeling, fashion.

Alhamdulillah I got hidayat on 29 sept 2013, but I will say again read how I was. One of spoil person and I don't know what Allah like in me and place me on track. 

Conclusion: Don't ever thing this people can't be right. Allah can show u-turn any time.

Alhamdulillah. Just pray for all people out there need dua from us. In sha Allah will discuss my journey in next blog